Groomzilla. Pretty sure none of us have heard that term before now. It’s always ‘Bridezilla’. It could be because brides tend to freak out a bit more during the stress of the wedding planning/execution phases- OR it could be because she is carrying the mental load of the big day on her shoulders almost completely alone.

PAUSE- this is not a bash post! Trust me and read on, my dears.

There are what are considered the “traditional” roles of the planning process where the bride and, typically, her mother plan everything and make sure it’s carried out. However, as the world is slowly learning- marriages (like parenting or eating tacos) flow best when it’s done WITH your significant other. In fact, marriages that recognize this teamwork standard before the big day tend to last longer and be healthier throughout the marriage. No one is feeling overlooked, unimportant, or unheard.

That is powerful knowledge. And with that in mind- more than ever in history, grooms are stepping up to gladly have their say in the planning process. If you need another reason outside of the feeling of togetherness and support you get through the whole process, here is a quote from a local bride.

“I love that I’m not the only one telling stories of our wedding day. My husband loves to tell about his choice of song for HIM to walk down the isle to. The Star Wars theme may not have been my first choice but the crowd certainly loved it and, more importantly, my husband did.”

This type of planning requires some compromise from both parties. Maybe he doesn’t like the main color but a similar, softer color is agreeable to you both. Great Grandma Margarita will have to stop using her short time to live as an excuse to try and get you to use limoncello as the main color if you tell her that you and your beloved made a joint decision and you can’t change it by yourself. You’re welcome 😉

Not all wedding planning works this way and if you take on a more traditional role in the planning process that is totally okay if it works for you guys. Just consider that the groom may enjoy planning your future sendoff with you. Even more, he might just like to spend that time with you and knowing what’s going on.

So- in case you were on the fence- here is your official recommendation from Creative Grace Planning to ask the groom his opinion and relieve a little mental weight from those tired planning neurons.

Let us know how your groom was involved and what you guys enjoyed best (or least) about that process!

-CGP