Pink! Navy! Lace! Suspenders!

There are about a million decisions to make for your wedding, but the first thing you should decide is what size wedding fits you. You may have people trying to influence you one way or another, this is why it’s important to consider all of the involved details so you can simply say, ‘we made an informed choice based on our needs and preferences’.

Let’s talk big- when you think of your wedding, are the walls covered in flowers? Are there ballet dancing flower girls pirouetting down the isle?

You may have the big wedding mindset- so let’s see if everything else matches up.

First and most importantly, does your future spouse want a big wedding as bad as you? If not you may need to have an important conversation about meeting in the middle somewhere.

Big weddings, cost big. If you have been saving for this or money is simply no object then you are off to a good start. It’s ideal to not start a marriage out broke. Statistically, couples who have gone big without proper planning didn’t fare so well matrimonially.

Sometimes a family name or important family history can warrant a large wedding. Also, in this category are celebrities (even local ones) and political positions. This is only true if financially, physically, and mentally everything else is in line with the big wedding plans.

Is it feasible? Do you have the time to plan, prep, and execute each aspect of a large wedding? Are there DIY elements? Is it going to be too much mentally? Who is helping and involved? Are they aware of their duties? etc.

Perhaps, it’s just what you want. You want your wedding to say ‘look at us, we are going to take on the world together!’ And hopefully every attendee would support you as you conquer every moment and every year of your love story.

If some of those things make you question the ballet dancers then let’s talk small.

An intimate wedding doesn’t take anything from the beauty or importance of your day.

In fact, often it’s remembered in better detail due to less moving pieces throughout the planning process and actual wedding day.

It’s fiscal. Whether you have a big honeymoon on the horizon, are planning to purchase your first house, or even trying for a little one, it can be a great choice to put money towards your future instead of a grand dalliance (even though that is quite exciting!).

You will have more options for venues! There are many gorgeous venues to hold your wedding in Michigan. Many of the more styled venues (restaurant, barn, etc) can only hold so many, so if you have a dream location you may want to take this into consideration.

There is more time for enjoying the people closest to you and less of a strict schedule to stick to. If you are somewhat of a nostalgic, like me, this time and the conversations you have on this day may be incredibly important.

And of course, you might just want it. You want your wedding to say ‘simple and strong’. There is nothing wrong with wanting less. Truly it can be so much more enjoyable and less stressful for many.

So, do you fall into either category? Safely in the middle? Or still have questions? Let me know how I can help you make this paramount decision.

I hope no matter what you choose, that it’s perfectly you…and that we get to be a part of it 😉